After rounding some guest bloggers who also dabbled in the same category with nifty social causes, I’ve decided to gather their short stories in their most recent ‘failures’. Keep reading for extremely relatable stories to get you through the day:
Quarter Life Confession:
I’ve recently failed (many times over) in attempting to acquire an internship. However, through these attempts, I’ve gained a lot of experience in interviewing, online assessments, video interviews, and testing centres. This has enabled me to learn a lot about myself, and the importance of being resilient and never giving up!
Don’t Overthink It:
I failed a job application for a role that I really wanted. People say to think the worst before you find out, but I couldn’t help but stay hopeful. I was pretty crushed when I found out. But we are human, we have feelings. You just have to give yourself some time to get over it but remember that your chance will come if you keep trying. Sometimes life doesn’t go as expected and that’s ok!
The last time I failed was in an application for an internship where I had applied for what I thought would be ‘easiest’ department to get into because I felt that I just really needed any vacationer experience. The fact that my heart wasn’t in it was very clear to anyone and I learned that I shouldn’t do things just because others do it too. It’s okay to go at your own pace and direction because it’s better to pursue what you really want (even if it is more difficult!) because it is much more rewarding in the long run!
Switch Off the Stigma:
I recently felt that I failed when I handed in an assessment and when I received the marks I completely missed the mark. It was a blow to my confidence and made me question my ability. But, I’m really determined, and it only made work harder. That’s how I see it. If you fail, it only means you can go up from here. I talk to my tutor and worked things out on how to improve. Don’t take it to heart. Failure is only a part of success!
As inspirational as long stories can be, sometimes you can get the same message that’s short and sweet and gets straight to the point. Quotes are easily digestible, and on a personal level have helped me deal with failure as small pick me up reminders. Below are the best 5 quotes for failure that have resonated with me.
- I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
– Thomas Edison
- I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I cannot accept not trying. – Michael Jordan
- It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case you fail by default.
– J.K. Rowling
- Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts. – Winston Churchhill
- You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.
– Johnny Cash
It always sounds easier than done when someone tells you to learn from your failures. Sure, the concept sounds great, but do they really understand the feeling of defeat, the rejection you felt? Answer is most likely less, but in different ways, since we’ve all failed to some degree. But still, can’t beat the blues? Here are some ways that’ll hopefully keep your head up.
- Acknowledgement, to let it go.
There’s a saying that the more you immerse yourself in a feeling, the easier it’ll be to let it go later. Don’t do that half-half thing where you kinda admit it but you don’t actually come to peace with it. Do it properly, feel all the pain you feel, think it through 600 times over if you must. Eventually, we’ll reach a stage where we get bored of thinking the same thing, and we’ve become so immersed in the pain and heartache (sounds awfully dramatic) that we essentially can’t get any deeper so we end up floating back to the surface (i.e. reality – and that Earth stands still for no one)
- Write it down.
I know, I know. It’s almost like admitting you failed. But that sounds awfully like exactly what you’re meant to be doing. Don’t just write about your failures though, but them in line with your successes. We’ll both succeed and fail, but if you fail, you might as well extract all the ‘good’ stuff from failing. What did you learn during this process? How will you change it differently next time?
- Bury yourself deep in pick-me-up videos.
We all need that inspiration sometimes. Whether it’s videos about extremely successful people who have failed, or TedTalks about failing, or reading 60 Humans of New York posts in order to make yourself feel better, do it. It took my about 4 days of constant watching till I snapped out of it. Read here as well, about a successful Stanford professor that listed all his failures, then read about his successes. You’ll notice that they come hand in hand.
- Make a plan and construct your fears.
Whilst undergoing my own self pity-parties, I came across a video that advocates setting your failures, also known as “failure-setting”. Which helps you control what you can and can’t control, and rather have fear and failure hit you at full force all at once, you can mentally and emotionally plan for them and be, well, one step ahead.
- Think back on your past failures.
Now realise you’ve gotten over them before, and surely you’ll get over this one now. Sure this failure might’ve been grander, you might be in an extremely dire situation now, but then realise the obstacles you have to come might even be grander than that. Were you raised a quitter? If you were, then nows the time to change it. If you aren’t, then here’s the time to prove it. If you’re a neither-nor, then choose the better side. If possible, think of a failure and how it’s actually led to something good. Hopefully, you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel by doing so.
- Change your mindset.
Change your mindset into one of inevitability – that everyone fails, you HAVE failed, and you most certainly WILL fail. Realise your strength lies in not avoiding these failures for the rest of your life, but rather having the strength to overcome them. You’re on the 50/50 section and how you think now and how you approach failure in the future will really change the way you perceive things.
I also like to heathily dose (and hopefully not cross into the fields of existentialism) by zooming out back onto my existence and realising that I am really just a small speck in the Universe. If I look at it that way, sometimes I feel like my failures are more insignificant and less well, shit.
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